Here's letter #2 from the Jet Magazine Sista:
And so, She Asks:
Question 2: My coworker is HOT! I mean, I think he's just the Bee's Knees of my company and he doesn't even know it! The problem is, I never have a reason to be in communication with him. At all. We work on completely different projects and the only time I see him is at the company meetings. I don't want to stalk him or just show up in his cubicle for no reason other than to flirt. My job is like high school so any inquiries I make will automatically generate emails and IMs of all kinds of rumors. I don't need that kind of publicity. When it comes to my romances...low key is key for me. So how does one initiate contact? For all I know he's big boo'd up with a live in SO and is completely opposed to dating coworkers &/or outside his race or even more...he could be a closet racist and I'm setting myself up for the ultimate FAIL! I need info... I just don't know how to go about getting it! Help me PBG and BBJ!
Sistagirl ( I feel like I can call you that now, since this our 2nd letter together), you don't need any info. You have all the info you need:
- This man works at your workplace.
- Your workplace is a hot bed for gossip.
The End.
What else do you need to know that will tell you that you do not need to be trying to kick off anything with this guy? Sure, he's "the Bee's Knees", but what does that have to do with your mortgage (or rent)/food & utilities/shoe budget?? Dating a guy from the job is a recipe for disaster because of the inevitable rumor mill that will work overtime on your and Brotha Oh-So-Fine's behalf. Please. Stop. No. That is all just some mess waiting to happen. People will get their whisper, point and giggle on and next thing you know, you'll be taking off your earrings inviting folks out to the parking lot!! And it could possibly put your job in jeopardy, depending on your company's policy on office fraternization. Whatever his romantic situation may be is waaay besides the point. Even if he's free as a bird, he is a poor choice for you because he is your co-worker.
Office romances are never a good idea, for a lot of reasons. The most consequential of these being losing your job. But then there is the gossip and the embarrassment and awkwardness if the relationship doesn't work out. It's just not worth the risk.
All of my readers are going to come in here and say the same thing: "Don't sh*t where you eat!" and you need to take heed, believe me. Low key my big toe...at work, you need to keep your love locked down: NO KEY!!
HunnyBunny, there are plenty more ponds in which to fish. The office pool should be off limits!
Hey, You Asked!
PBG
