Hello My Lovelies!
I was so delighted to open my email box over the weekend and get this fantastic follow up to the letter entitled "Ringless". If you recall, this was a situation with a young woman who was playing the role of "wife" to an apparently selfish man and not getting any of the benefits. Click the link to read the original post, then check out her update:
HI PBG!
i just wanted to update you on what happened after i sent you the letter about my boyfriend/fiance...
i must admit, my feelings were a bit hurt after i read the responses...but not for long. i realized that YES, he was still living that young, still-single lifestyle, while i was playing the role of the good wifey. not long after i emailed you, he joined a bike club and that sealed the deal for me. it really confirmed that he was looking to "escape" his home life, and why ruin a good thing? if you can have the kids and know they are being taken care of, and home is being taken care of, then u have a pretty good deal right? the comments that you got were a real eye opener. so much of an eye opener, that i left him.
It was hard to do, starting out on my own again after so long, but i got a job, moved home with my mom til I could figure things out, and removed my name from EVERYTHING lol! even down to the joint bank account! I do miss him, but since I left, he has really been showing his true colors. The kids get half-assed visits because "the bike club is doing something" or "work is taking up all his time" and i now realize how much he really wasnt home to begin with. I didnt even try being nice with the child support and took him immediately and even a month later he is bullshitting me, but its okay. im happier now and thats all that matters. the kids dont even seem phased right now, which is the saddest part.
Thanks for posting my question, I appreciate the help everyone offered in the form of cold hard truths lol, but im on the right track with no intentions to turn back!
Well, Miss Thing! Good for you!
While I am saddened by the demise of anyone's love relationship as it is usually a difficult processs, I am so happy to hear that you've made the best decision for yourself. You loved yourself enough to let go of a relationship that was going nowhere. That is awesome. I wish you continued strength and support in all of your endeavors in this new chapter of your life!
If you have a follow-up letter or would like an impartial opinion on your situation, please send it to "Hey, You Asked!" askthepbg@gmail.com!
In this and all things, I wish you love, light & clarity.
~pbg
