Dear PBG,
I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place writing this, as my issue is with my father. He is holding me back from want I want to do in my life and it is really annoying me that he doesn't care to listen to what I have to say.
Here is a lil background info...
We were having family issues and I chose to help out until things got better. Now things are some what improved, I cannot live my life because he has to work and wants me to stay home with my brother(who has severe autism) and my nephew. The mother of the child is living her life and does not care about this child because she doesn't have custody anymore. It is really taking a toll on me, I feel stressed all the time and not enjoying my life as a young woman should. On numerous occasions I have applied to go schools and find find jobs so I can make a living for myself. However, I was unable to attend. I have spoken to different family members about this situation, and they say "Oh, I will talk to him or I will help you out if you need anything", but they never do. I am depressed and can barely make it though the day sometimes.
Thanks for taking the time to read my letter!!
From
purplelilys23
Dear Lily,
This letter is absolutely heart-wrenching to me. It hurts me because I can see so clearly the end result if you don't pull out of this situation and declare your independence now. I stuck close to home when I was very young too, not because I was forced by circumstance like you are but because I was afraid. Now I'm playing catch-up and it's not easy at all. I don't want that for you. It's time for you to get out into the sunshine so you can bloom.
You played the good daughter role and helped out to give your family a chance to stabilize. Now that things are settled, you have the right to strike out into the world and start making a life for YOURSELF! Do it. It's your right AND as a citizen of the world, it is your responsibility.
Your little brother and your nephew are not your children, so they are NOT your responsibility. Your father will have to take care of them because it is time for you to go out and go to school and work. You are a young woman and should be doing all the things that young women do: education, work, socializing, community service. You will not have a chance to grow into the person you're meant to be if you don't.
If you have to leave your father's house to have a chance, prepare yourself to do it. Be ready to depend on the relationships you build outside of your family to do the things that will move you closer to success and personal accomplishment. If your other family members can't/won't help you in the situation with your dad, then don't expect to be able to count on them for much else.
Get ready for a hard road ahead, Miss PurpleLily. Pray a whole lot and envision the end you want in the beginning. You can do it! Go forth and prosper, Miss Thing!
In this and in all things, I wish you love, light and clarity.
~pbg
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