Hey PBG,
I have this guy on my Facebook that has been my friend for awhile. I just never spoke to him, but I always thought he was cute. I ended up going out one night for a friend's birthday and saw him in person at a club. I was half drunk but I still realized who he was and kinda was in his face as a I walked past (again being drunk). So like a week later, I sent him a message on Facebook asking him if he was at the club making sure it was him and it was. We shared a few messages had a few laughs (especially about me being in his face) and now we are friends on Twitter. He asked a few times when was the next time I'd be going out and that if he saw me he would make sure to speak but I haven't gone out since that night. He is so handsome and funny from the little conversation I've had with him and I want to get to know him better but I'm not sure if I am his type. I'd like to find out, and maybe even see if he would like to go to dinner or get some drinks sometimes but I just dont know how to go about it. SO HELPPPPPP!
I think it's nice that you've met a friendly guy and are interested in getting to know him better. Meeting & dating from internet connections isn't as taboo as it once was, thanks to all the social networking we do nowadays. But it's not exactly easy to get the most important details you'd like to know through a few posts on Facebook or some tweets on Twitter.
I think you and this guy should spend some time chatting using an Instant Messenger. Just talk and see if you guys have enough chemistry and things in common to even warrant another in-person meet up. You can have a conversation hours long through instant messenger. I've made a lot of good friends just through using Yahoo IM before moving on to GoogleTalk (I love everything Google). I think it's a smart move to test the waters with this guy before committing to a full-fledged date.
Hopefully, you and this nice guy will find each other intriguing enough to want to see each other again (outside of the club, with you being completely) and if that's the case, I say you go right ahead and ask him out, if he doesn't do it first. Women don't necessarily come off as "pushy" by asking a guy out. You're just showing him that you're interested in a very direct way. I tend to think that some men would appreciate having the pressure of having to make the first move taken off of them every once in a while. All he can say is "yes" or "no", and you'll either have the opportunity to have a great night out with a great guy or you can walk away with no more or no less than you started. The only way you'll know is to take a chance, so go for it!
In this and in all things, I wish you love, light & clarity.
~pbg
