A little over a week ago, I got a letter from a lady who is happy to be expecting her first baby. This is always a special and exciting time and we here at "Hey, You Asked!" wish her the very best.
One of the issues brought up in her letter is the fact that the father of her child already has 4 children. He had expressed some reticence about this new baby because he is being overwhelmed with the financial responsibility of child support for the children he had with is ex-wife. '
In my response to her letter, I asserted that Daddy-to-Be's choice in the matter ended at ejaculation. I stand by that because I think men who do not want to have more children (or any at all) should take control over their own situation and make sure that they don't. Once the woman is pregnant, the man doesn't have much control over whether or not a baby is born, if any at all. I think the ideal thing for men of this state of mind to do is to have a vasectomy.
I found a video describing the the procedure and you can also go to vasectomy.com to check out more information.
At the mere mention of "vasectomy", SO MANY men either recoil in disgust and/or fear, or express pure outrage. Many men I've encountered absolutely refuse to ever even consider it. A lot of them are the same ones complaining about being beleaguered by the responsibilities of what I call "excessive fatherhood" i.e., a gang of children, more often than not, with more than one woman.
For the life of me, I cannot understand this. Who wouldn't want to take total control over their own life situation? Leaving MY destiny up to someone else is something I go to all sorts of lengths to avoid. I know things sometimes "just happen", but a kid is not one of those things.
Somebody, somewhere...please explain to me why so many guys have a problem with the idea of a vasectomy?
