How You Doin'?? : Follow-Up to "Re-Adjusting Your Thug"

Hello My Lovelies!

Today's Follow-Up comes from the post entitled "Re-Adjusting Your Thug". In that letter, a young letter asked advice on how to handle some messy chicas that were trying to be all up n' through her long distance relationship by making snide, sideways comments to her and a friend at a party. She wanted to whup their azzes!

Click here to read her original letter.

Well, she has since had a few revelations:

The Follow-Up: Come to find out the couple who tried to play my face at the party have done similiar crazy things to people in my circle. They've accused others of doing scandalous things. Basically they are crazy and paranoid. I've encountered them once since the incident, I was cordial, but then I removed myself and my posse from their vicinity. Confirmation of their crazy behavior has strengthend my resolve to make them "dead" to me. Now they are just some vaguely familiar faces in a crowd of others. I am cautious though of folks who seem overely interested in other people's relationships. Nosey bastards...


I like the way you handled that one! What could've easily become a brawl was resolved with all the grace n' style befitting a proper woman! Awesome!!

In this and all things, I wish you love, light & clarity.

~pbg

How You Doin'??: Follow Up to "Rollercoaster"

Hello My Lovelies!

I have a follow-up to share with you all:

How could we forget the young lady in the 9 year, roller coaster of a relationship with a guy she'd dated since high school. He had a propensity for playing the "games of Amber Rose (bald-headed)" (c)Luvvie, and it was a twisty-turny of a mess for my letter writer.

Click here to see the original entry, "Roller Coaster".

Well, here's how she says she is making out since I answered her letter:


Before I wrote you, I knew that I needed to let that situation go. Sometimes hearing it from someone else is just the push you need.

One of your readers said something that really made me say “damn.” Monk said, “At some point, you stop being a victim and you're more so a participant.” That made me see things differently. I wanted no more parts of that game, so I quit. Thanks Monk!

I don’t speak to the ex often (maybe once a month, if that), and the conversations are always quick (oh, you’re alive? that’s what’s up). I’ve removed myself from the situation physically, but of course feelings are still there. But I’m working on putting me first. It’s a progress, but I can do it! Thanks for the advice PBG!

P.S. Where’s a good place to meet people?


We here at Hey, You Asked are so glad you are on the road to recovery from that toxic relationship! You go girl! Special thanks to Monk for typing the words that spoke to this young lady's heart!

As for a good place to meet people...when I find out, I'll be sure to let YOU know! lol!


In all things, I wish you love, light & clarity.


~pbg

"How You Doin'??": HYA Follow-Up Series

Hello Dedicated Readers!

This a special post to announce the Hey, You Asked follow-up series, "How You Doin'??"

I started this blog a little over 6 months ago and have received hundreds about 25 letters in that time. These letters have come from all kinds of people from all walks of life, all looking for a little clarity in their situations. I've done my best to assist them in that and appreciate all the $.02 deposits from the readers as well.

A couple of my readers ( I see you, Gemmie!) have sent me messages asking if I've heard anymore from maybe the stripper w/the questionable boyfriend or the expectant mother whose husband was against her male gay BFF being in their new baby boy's life. I haven't! But I'd love to!

If you or anyone you know has sent in a question to HYA since I started doling out sagacious advice to the masses, please send me a brief note letting me know how things are going in that particular situation. All my readers would love to know how you made out.

Again, send your follow-up letters to askthepbg@gmail.com. I'll post them with a link back to your original query. I hope that all is well with you guys who trusted me with your queries.

Feel free to send new letters for advice to the email address above and I'll do my best help you out as well!

I wish you all love, light & clarity.



~pbg